When you feel seen and acknowledged, what’s that like? You feel pretty good, right? If you notice someone looking at you, you straighten up and stand taller, adjusting yourself a bit; and if the person seeing you also loves and respects you, you feel a...
The Upward Spiral of Gratitude Have you ever noticed that glow on someone who is grateful for all sorts of little things? They not only remember to say thank you for the smallest of kindnesses, they infuse everyday life with warmth and genuine appreciation. We...
This week we celebrate Valentine’s Day. As a relationship therapist and coach, you might think I’d love this holiday, but not so much. Why might I have mixed feelings about the holiday focused on love, and romance and fancy date nights? Generally speaking, this holiday...
Here’s an easy tip that immediately improves the climate of your relationship with your spouse, your children, your family, and your co-workers. If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, then you know that I’m big on gratitude, and I’ve shared all sorts of...
Why is it that the person you fall in love with is often completely different from you? You like to amble through life smelling the roses, and your partner moves at the speed of light. You’re gregarious and easy going, and your spouse is quiet...
Over 20 years as a therapist, I’ve met many couples that are unable to work things out, even with therapy on their side. But it’s not the fault of therapy. Truth be told, I’ve met very few couples with truly irreconcilable differences . The numbers...